If you’re not a mom yet, you may be chuckling to yourself about how to meet other moms being akin to dating. But, it really is.
I often joke about this with moms in my friend network. It really does feel like you’re back in the dating game. If you happen to also be in the dating game, you’re a pro and can offer us tips. Please comment below!
I’ve compiled a list of ways I met other moms from my own mom journey, as well as polling other moms in my network.
BUT FIRST WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO BUILD A NETWORK AND MEET OTHER MOMS
Studies upon studies show that moms with support do better mentally, physically, emotionally and psychologically.
The research also shows the links between social support and mitigating postpartum depletion and postpartum depression. I’ve also compiled a FREE Guide on postpartum depression that contains a quiz to help you.
What this means is that social support almost provides a padding for moms to deal with the transition to motherhood and adding a new member to the family. The other key is to find like-minded moms from a parenting perspective, but also as a person.
BENEFITS OF MEETING OTHER MOMS
There are so many benefits of building a support network with other like-minded moms:
- Studies show people that have better support have better outcomes in terms of mental health in particular.
- You can use your mom network to trade babysitting nights.
- Having someone or some folks to unload concerns to is a realise. Keeping everything inside or isolating contributes to poor mental health outcomes and anxiety.
- Many moms report that expectations to motherhood are misaligned with their experience of the realities. This is a major theme in postpartum anger. Having other mothers in your network can give you perspective and make you feel less alone in the journey.
- Qualitative reports show some women struggle with wearing the new mom identity. This is actually a very common experience. Developing a mom network can help with the transition to motherhood, identification and developing other interests.
TOP 3 TIPS TO MEET OTHER MOMS
- Join a class. Any class. If y join a class that you’re interested in, you’ll automatically have things in common with the folks in the class. It’s a great way to start a conversation when you’re in a space that already narrows the pool. Some moms want to meet other people and not talk about mom things. Others want to find kinship with other moms and share their experiences of their mother journey.
- Network with parents at your children’s schools, pre-schools or after school programs. Sometimes it’s not the easiest to speak to moms at school. It can be busy, chaotic and a little intimidating perhaps. However, you may be surprised that it might be easier than you think to strike up a convo. Some helpful tips here are to show an interest in your kids friends. Use that to speak to other parents in your kid’s network.
- Engage in online communities that have like minded moms. Many introvert mamas say that engaging online is a bit easier than speaking to moms in person. This can be as helpful to connect to other moms.
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Please don’t forget to drop me a line below in the comments telling me what your tips are on how to meet other moms.
Be good to yourself,