The first thing I realized right away when I got pregnant was that I began to have mom anxiety. The second thing I realized after I had my son was that mom anxiety never really goes away.
Yikes, what did I get myself into for the rest of my life?
There are a million and one things to worry about when you’re a mom and from my experience at least, my worry does not get things done.
In fact, it is something that makes me ponder things well into the night. It can seep into the already very few hours of sleep I have been allotted with all the fun facts you discover while breastfeeding never mind just being a mom in general.
HOW TO DECREASE YOUR MOM ANXIETY
I have complied a list of helpful tips that helped me decrease my mom anxiety and that is based on some business leadership research.
Yep, you read that right. After all, you are running a business. A ‘family business’ if you will…
It isn’t rocket science, but the research does help to bring some tips from the public sphere into the private. These are proven steps to take and work in the business world, so why not try to make it work at home?
So hold up! What can we do to put a stop to mom anxiety early or manage it and hold onto some of our marbles here?
BORROWING FROM BUSINESS TIPS TO AID LOWER MOM ANXIETY
STEP 1: TRUST YOUR INTUITION.
“Mama, stop listening to what every other parent is saying and doing! And for the love of God, stop googling yourself into a frenzy.”
We all know, it always ends up being cancer!
Listen mama, another thing I learned during pregnancy, evolution has gotten me this far —my body literally knows what to do to make a child. I never trusted my body like that before. It guided me through the whole process and even when I didn’t know what in the world was going on, my body did.
Now that your child is here, you have been gifted with a strong intuition, gut feeling, the universe, whatever you want to call it. But you have it as a mama, so trust it. It will rarely lead you astray. It was created inside of you and brought to you by your ancestors before you who survived.
STEP 2: ALLIES – FIND YOUR TRIBE.
Being a mama is hard work. Not news to any of us, I’m sure.
However, according to a study conducted by Welch’s who surveyed 2,000 American moms of children aged 5-12, working moms clock an average of 98 hours each week, which is equivalent to working 2.5 full-time jobs. Not only do you need a little self-care and some “you time” (get some creative self-care ideas), it’s also important to find others that you feel some level of synergy with. Usually they tend to be other moms because they just get it, but it doesn’t have to be.
Finding some other like minded mamas in the neighbourhood, community or online is a great way of finding some allies, self-care and some mental and emotional support. It is also just practical.
You hopefully like your mom friends so why not do play dates together so it’s fun for you too, self-care together on a ladies’ night out or take turns babysitting each other’s child(ren) so you can spend some time, perhaps with your significant other. Definitely a win for me hanging with a mama’s group.
3. SUPPORT – DELEGATE. DELEGATE. LET’S SAY IT AGAIN… DELEGATE.
Yas, you heard. Yass, you are a hero for literally doing it all, but you don’t have to.
Ask for help, set some boundaries and make some things clear. The point I am trying to make is that if you have a significant other and/or family you can call on, it might help free up a bit of sleep, “you time” and give you some mental space.
You also have child(ren) and as they get older they are able to help more and more around the house. Empower them to learn independence and become helpful contributors to the family and home community. This is one of the biggest services you can do for them. They will be better community members at school, neighborhood, and at their job one day.
Being mindful and setting clear boundaries early on is healthy in any type of relationship. It’s also helpful to set schedules with friends and family that want to help pitch in mommy duties.
It doesn’t make you weak to ask for help. Actually, it helps to build community and the riches that can come from that are far more rewarding. Speaking up also opens communication lines that allow for better parenting, a more unified approach within your parenting world and overall transparency.
LET ME KNOW HOW YOU DECREASE YOUR MOM ANXIETY
There are loads of different ways that each of us use to cope with our mom anxiety. I’ve borrowed from business leadership research to help us moms here. Let me know if some of these work for you.
How do you do it? Leave a comment below and let me know!
Be good to yourself,